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This blog answers some of the common questions that are searched online about therapy and how symptoms  show up in everyday life that can be helped using a holistic approach to healing.

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Posted on 13 February, 2017 at 13:15

Mirroring is a technique used by manipulators to get close quickly. What happens is that the manipulator gathers information about the target either during the discussion, but usually prior to the discussion. Then in their discussion or manipulator's presentation the manipulator mentions familiar information that only the target would know to let the target identify with the manipulator quickly so the target thinks the manipulator gets her/him and they have something in common. Usually after ...

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Posted on 16 January, 2017 at 20:10

Addiction to another person and the need to control them! When co-dependents take ownership of another person's problem, they get their sense of wellbeing, by directing the behavior of the dependent person, however, they end up being controlled by the person they are trying to help. A person who has a relationship with an addicted / abusive person demonstrated certain characteristics: Increased tolerance of unacceptable behavior; denial of the level of severity of the personal impact and dama...

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Damaging a Victim

Posted on 8 January, 2017 at 19:40

A Toxic person will take down a victim to a point where they are forced to reduce old people-pleasing habits and turns their focus inward and criticize themselves for feeling. When a victim's self-worth becomes so damaged, it requires learning how to love oneself unconditionally. In the past, when victims were young they may have not been allowed to have emotions. However, due abusive behavior of the toxic person this is an opportunity for victims to learn how to self soothe intense negative ...

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How abusers use projection to continue to abuse

Posted on 19 December, 2016 at 11:10

Psychological projection is based on the theory in psychology where humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others. However, a clever toxic person that knows something about psychology will setup their victim by telling the victim's friends and family that the victim is projecting their toxic personality onto the toxic person and the toxic person will act innoce...

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Okay what do I look for?

Posted on 18 December, 2016 at 16:00

When toxic people do something that is wrong or hurtful they accept no blame and even blame others. Toxic people are willing to hurt anybody whenever it is necessary to help meet their objectives. Toxic people lie or tell partial truths to convince or confuse others to hurt their victims or their victims of their intent. Toxic people can dissociate from a crisis and show no emotions where others would react. Toxic people can be extremely charming, however, there are moments they must step awa...

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What is behind praise from a toxic person

Posted on 18 December, 2016 at 14:00

At first a toxic person acts extremely happy for a victim's success during this idealization and love bombing phase of the relationship. They may use the victim as a trophy to gain status and prestige of being associated with the victim. They have no problem benefiting from the victim's wealth, contacts, and status. As the relationship progresses the toxic person’s need to devalue the victim, and their competitiveness, and overall envy eat away at them, and unconsciously forces the toxi...

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Toxic People

Posted on 12 December, 2016 at 0:40

A toxic person's weapon of choice is often verbal slander, lies, playing the victim in flipping tales of who was the victim and who was the abuser, gossip, rage, verbal abuse, and the purposeful infliction of emotional pain. They use misdirection, triangulation, and lies to set up and continue the toxic ploy. The Toxic person systematically dismantles another person's relationships, reputation, emotional, physical, and spiritual health, life and their very soul. Many times, the victims are no...

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What is Abuse?

Posted on 4 December, 2016 at 13:40

Abuse is about control of another person or group. Abuse can come from an individual or from a group of people. It is to control an individual or group subtly or directly, against their will. Abuse can be verbal, emotional, sexual, physical, financial, and spiritual. Many times, we hear about domestic violence or assault of a person and that is considered overt aggression (physical, sexual, financial, verbal) because it can be seen or heard. However, for example, over 80% of domestic violence...

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The Source of All Addictions

Posted on 25 November, 2016 at 13:55

Neurotic shame is a sense that a person feels defective and flawed as a human being and is the core of all addictions. The neurotic shame is toxic because it does not show our limits as humans, but it is a state of being, a core identity. It is a sense of worthlessness, and falling short as a human being. This toxic neurotic shame is a rupture of the self with the self. Toxic neurotic shame can be described as the feeling of being isolated and alone.

Because toxic neurotic shame is the...

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Addicts Abusers, and Co-Dependents

Posted on 13 November, 2016 at 11:00

This is a summary of common actions, feelings, and thoughts addicts, abusers, and co-dependents have. They have difficulty making decisions, judge what they think, say, or do harshly, as never good enough, value others' approval of their thinking, feelings, and behavior over their own, and do not perceive themselves as lovable or worthwhile persons. They seek recognition and praise to overcome feeling less than, have difficulty admitting a mistake, need to appear to be right in the eyes of ot...

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